They say goals are dreams with a deadline.
Your goals are your dreams. I’m not talking about the dreams when you’re sleeping. Because to be honest some of my night dreams are crazy. I’m talking about the dreams you have when you are day dreaming.
- Dreams you have when you’re at work wishing it were different
- Dreams of being the boss
- Dreams of having your own business
- Dreams of helping bring people together
- Dreams of living abroad or taking long vacations because your “career” allows it
Whatever your dreams are, know they are achievable. It takes practice to make them reality.
The Hidden secret behind goal setting
It’s easy to write goals. For example, saying “I want to lose 20 pounds in three months.” But how am aI going to do that?
Many people recommend S.M.A.R.T. goals, an acronym that means:
Specific. Measurable. Actionable. Realistic. Timely.
Specific - A clear purpose
Measurable - How I know this goal will be achieved
Actionable - There are steps
Realistic - It can actually be done
Timely - It has a time frame
Using the pervious example, I’ve adapted my original goal to be S.M.A.R.T.:
“I want to lose 20 pounds by May 13 2017 by eating healthy and exercising five days a week.”
Specific - Losing 20 pounds by eating healthy and exercising
Measurable - The end goal weighing 20lbs less
Actionable - Eating healthy and exercising five days a week
Realistic - It’s an attainable amount of weight to lose
Timely - The end date is three months
Okay that’s part is done, but it’s not like it magically happens. I need a detailed plan and action to achieve my goal.
Actions for my goal include:
- Meal planning
- Meal Prepping
- Following an exercise program suited to my goal
- Proper after exercise care three times a week, including stretching/yoga/meditation
However, is this really going to get me to my goal?
The secret to achieving my goal is 100% pure and real honesty with myself.
This means understanding the root of the problem and facing the truth. You get to that point by asking yourself hard questions, in this case:
- When did my weight gain begin?
- What factors in my life were contributing to stress?
- What were my eating habits?
- What were my exercise habits?
- When has worked before, if anything?
- How was my body functioning? Am I lethargic? Do I get regular headaches? Are my menstrual cycles normal?
- What has been my perception of my body?
After asking myself these questions, I have to go deeper and make sense of the answers. So I Analyzed everything.
Here’s my timeline
Throughout my life my weight has been up and down, but that was mainly due to stress and body image issues.
But whenever I put effort into eating healthy and exercise, I was able to lose weight and keep a stable weight over a period of time.
However about eight years ago, things started to change.
- I had an increase of weight gain.
- Small intolerances to different food
- Bloating, and I mean un-normal amounts of bloating.
- I was extremely tired, no matter how long I slept.
- I had migraines.
When I went to the doctor, they said it was natural weight gain. Hormones combined with “lady troubles.”
As time progressed, my food intolerances grew. My weight gain was uncontrollable. I was constantly tired. My eyes felt like they were burning. Terrible migraine headaches. Constant inflammation. Dark circles under my eyes. Needless to say constant tummy problems.
I went back to the doctor’s several times. Whether it was local doctors, doctors in different states, or even in different countries when I lived abroad. They all said it was a part of life, a part of growing up!
When I heard doctors say that, I felt unmotivated and was at a loss.
No matter how hard I set up meal plans, cooking healthy food, and exercising, I felt like the doctors were not getting to the root of the problem. They were telling me I’m going to be overweight, I’m always going to feel tired, so tough luck!
Even if I had goals, the doctors beliefs made me want to give up and give up my healthy habits.
After looking deep into my answers, I started researching. I equipped myself with my symptoms and googled non-stop.
And then recently, I FINALLY found it.
I have leaky gut.
Simply put, my gut wasn’t healthy and had bad bacteria growing. In addition, this prevented my body from distributing vitamins properly. It also affected my memory and my energy.
HOLY MOLY! I really couldn’t believe it. I wasn’t crazy. It wasn’t age or female problems. I had an issue. This is what was preventing me from losing weight.
Equipped with this new knowledge, I am able to create better steps to reach my goal.
1. Get Healthy
Heal my leaky gut. Take vitamins and supplements, get on a specific diet, avoid foods, also maintain low to moderate exercise.
I’m only on this first step, but I am happy to report that within the first week I’ve felt incredibly better!
- My energy is back.
- I no longer become tired or lethargic throughout the day.
- When I wake up in the morning, my eyes are no longer tired.
- I feel like I could exercise and still have energy after.
- I’ve also already lost a few pounds that have stayed off for a few weeks.
I’m still into my new journey, but I confidently feel like I can move towards my goal.
Also, it feels amazing to know what’s been holding me back.
2. Stick to a Plan
In the next few weeks, I plan to add regular exercise into my every day. Right now I am only going for walks, but I feel better than ever. My sleep has also improved which means I'm really ready to start my every day right!
3. Track Results
Including what I eat, how food makes me feel, my mood, but I wont be tracking my weight!
To be honest, I really want to feel healthy and that is more important than a number on the scale.
In addition to my health goal, I also plan to use the same formula in my business.
We cannot overcome what we don’t know. But we can go over what’s been holding us back and try and understand what the issue is from preventing us to our goal.
Once we’re ready to face the facts, the answers become clear. It takes hard work, dedication, and motivation, but without a doubt, it can be done.
For a long time, I have wanted to start my own business and make a sustainable income, but fears and lack of self-confidence have dictated my path.
I convinced myself that it was better to work for a company. A safe career with a reliable paycheck and health insurance was the better route.
But I wasn’t 100% happy working for someone else, and this turned into complaining, which turned into a lack of motivation and creating an awful working environment for myself.
I've created my S.M.A.R.T. goal, a detailed action plan, and I'm in midst of asking myself brutally honest questions about my fears.
The root of my low self-confidence is still unraveling. It’s been hard to deal with the “what ifs” in my head that say “I’m not good enough,” “failure is inevitable.” The list goes on, as long as I will allow it to, but I’m ready to start believing in myself. I’m ready to do whatever it takes.
With that said, I ask you…
- What’s holding you back in your personal life?
- What’s holding you back in your business?
- What’s preventing you from moving forward?
What’s your next dream? Leave them in the comments below.